Sexuality and attraction are not black or white. They are both fluid with separate and distinct spectrums. There are 5 common types of attraction: sexual, romantic, physical, emotional, and aesthetic. Let’s go through each one!
In navigating relationships, it’s important to understand the differences in attraction types and the fluidity along its spectrum. One can experience more than one attraction type in both platonic and non-platonic relationships. The beauty is in the connection, communication, and understanding between those involved. For example, friends may experience aesthetic, emotional, and physical attraction but not sexual or romantic.
For many, the issues lie in the lack of understanding and the inability to unpack desires and fears. As humans, we have the capacity to experience an expansive spectrum of feelings and emotions that may change at any point in time. Society has created unrealistic rules around human attraction such as when you are married or partnered you should only be attracted to your mate. With this, many experience fear or guilt when they are attracted to someone else. It’s important to know that attraction is a desire, not an action. Experiencing an attraction or desire does not have to translate to taking action on it.
Have you experienced all 5 attraction types? Which attraction types are more prevalent in your current relationships? Have you experienced any of these attraction types with someone while partnered?
Authored by G. Stone
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