How to Explore Your Sexuality While Married: A Guide for Black Women Quick Answer: You can explore your sexuality while married by starting with private self-reflection, seeking discreet support, and deciding what feels right for you — without blowing up your life. Acknowledging attraction to women doesn’t mean you have to leave your marriage, come […]

Compulsory Heterosexuality for Black Women: What It Is and How to Recognize It Quick Answer: Compulsory heterosexuality (comp het) is the assumption that everyone is straight and should pursue opposite-gender relationships. For Black women, this often intersects with cultural, religious, and family expectations that make attraction to women feel impossible or shameful, even when it’s […]

Am I Bisexual? A Guide for Black Women Questioning Attraction Later in Life Quick Answer: Yes, you can discover or acknowledge attraction to women at any age. Attraction to women while married to a man, or after years of identifying as straight, doesn’t invalidate your past or lived experience. It reflects who you are now […]

For many Black women, especially those 40+, the question isn’t “Am I bi?”The question is really: Is it safe for me to say it out loud? Or maybe you’re thinking –  does it even matter because why are people in my personal business anyway?? You’ve lived a lot of life already. You’ve raised people. You’ve […]

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Are you a fem woman of color who values friendship and community for like minds? Are you serious about making a positive difference in the lives of women around you? Do you want to build lifelong connections with like-minded women? Yes? Then we invite you to join our SBNNL Community Ambassador Program! SBNNL Community Ambassadors […]

Navigating online dating and understanding sexuality is HARD! Doing both at the same time as a bi, curious, questioning or queer woman is NUTS! It’s a struggle dealing with both MEN AND WOMEN. I remember the first time I used an online dating app. What a learning experience LOL! Who wants to swap stories? Anywhoo, I’ve […]

Written by: Elsy Flores, Aroused Co. I don’t chase. I attract. What belongs to me will simply find me. Positive affirmation, the hype of the season. Trends have come and gone, but this particular one will stand the test of time. Positive affirmations aren’t made up; they are actually backed by science – Neuroscience. Neuroscience is the study […]

Join us for a 1920s themed event for women only! We’ll dress up and play a murder mystery game over dinner & dessert. After we eat and solve the mystery, the after party/dating mixer begins!   Full Event Tickets include: Themed event 3 course meal Murder Mystery Game Party favor Dating Game/Mixer Dope vibes w/ […]

Bisexually Late is a term coined by me, G Stone, for women who experience a later in life attraction to women and acceptance of there being no real timeline for sexuality. It is a spin on fashionably late and an invitation to sexually arrive at your own time. More women over the age of 25 […]